Do you ever find yourself almost apologising or justifying the fact that you spent the morning running? I do, and the more people I speak to, I realise that this is an actual thing – it’s hard to believe, but a lot of people aren’t actually too supportive towards people and their fitness/sport goals and achievements.
“You will wear yourself out!”
“Running is bad for your joints!”
“Running is boring!”
“Didn’t you train yesterday?”
“Aren’t you a bit obsessed?”
“Have a day off, it won’t kill you!”
“I bet you will be training, won’t you?”
I’m constantly met with passive aggressive/irritating comments about what I choose to do with my time, it’s pretty boring!
I’ve spent time thinking about this after discussing it with a friend (Ironically over coffee and cake instead of doing the run we had planned!), and I have come to the following conclusions:
Jealousy – these people probably wish they had the motivation to do these things, so it causes them stress that you do.
To find a hobby, a ‘thing’ is pretty cool, it’s great to find something outside of the usual work/socialising routines and not many people ever find something that they love doing (that’s a little more interesting than just the usual trips to the pub), so it bothers them that you have.
You will struggle to find people who don’t wish they were fitter/healthier in some way, so again, it seems to cause others stress that you are making the steps to become so when they aren’t.
I think the only way to deal with the negativity is to absolutely own the fact that you love training, bettering yourself, exploring and doing interesting things with your time. Bore them with how much you love training and offer to help them on their fitness journey if they’re that bothered. Be reassured that the negativity comes from their own experiences or insecurities – and that it doesn’t really matter what they think, so long as you’re happy/healthy. I would also make friends with other people who love your sport as much as you do… people who get it and are in on the little secret of how bloody cool it is. You do you!